Turn Your Indecision into a Warning Light

Mary
16 minutes ago
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Do you have those “check engine” signals or dashboard indicators that pop up in your car when something might be wrong? You know — “fuel is low,” “change engine oil,” “trunk is open.” Those little alerts can be real lifesavers.

When I first came to terms with the word indecisive, I felt a twinge of shame. It was uncomfortable to describe myself that way — especially while imagining that everyone else around me seemed to have it all together. Naturally, I wanted to “fix” it. I started learning how to be more decisive, and along the way, I picked up a few practical tips I’ll share with you at the end.

But first, let’s explore a shift in perspective — what if indecision isn’t a flaw to fight against but a signal to pay attention to? What if, like your car’s “check engine” light, indecision is meant to alert you, not condemn you?

1. A Warning Signal

When faced with an important decision and you find yourself wavering between options, take it as a warning light, not a weakness. Indecision can signal that something significant is happening beneath the surface — that this moment deserves your full attention, not a rushed response. Instead of pushing through or freezing in inaction, pause and ask: What might this hesitation be trying to tell me? Sometimes, the very act of slowing down is what saves you from costly mistakes.

2. Look Under the Hood

When a warning light flashes, most of us (hopefully!) don’t ignore it — we get it checked. The same principle applies when you’re wrestling with indecision. Often, indecision isn’t the real issue. It’s a symptom of something deeper. It could be fear — fear of the outcome, fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, or fear of making the wrong move. It might also be a desire to cling to the familiar, even when growth requires change. Whatever the cause, the key is to look under the hood and find out what’s really holding you back.

3. Call the Mechanic

Once you’ve found the source of your hesitation, it’s time to address it. Like you’d take your car to a professional for repairs, you might need to talk it through with someone you trust — a friend, family member, mentor, coach, or guide. And while “mechanics” are great, sometimes it’s best to go straight to the Manufacturer. God knows how you were designed. He understands the deeper wiring beneath your indecision and promises wisdom when you ask for it:

“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.”(James 1:5 NLT)

When you bring your uncertainty to Him, He not only helps you address the issue at hand but often reveals something greater that’s working against your design.

4. A Process, Not a One-Time Fix

Clarity often comes after you’ve worked through this process — not before. It’s not a one-and-done deal; you’ll likely repeat it many times in life. But each time you do, you’ll respond to indecision with more peace and confidence.

Practical Tips for Becoming a Better Decision-Maker

Here are a few strategies that have helped me grow more confident in my decisions:

Practical Tips for Becoming a Better Decision-Maker

Here are a few strategies that have helped me — and might help you — grow more confident in your decisions:

Pray Before You Proceed. Before rushing into a decision, pause and pray. Invite God into the process. Ask for clarity, peace, and discernment — not just direction. Sometimes His answer isn’t “go” or “stop” but “wait,” and prayer tunes your heart to hear that.
“Your word is a lamp to guide my feet and a light for my path.” – Psalm 119:105
Reduce Your Options. Some choices consume unnecessary time. Simplify them in advance.
- I’ll always give a 15% tip.
- I’ll wear black heels to formal events.
- I’ll repeat a two-week meal plan. These small pre-decisions free up energy for what truly matters.
Know Your Values. Understanding what’s important to you saves time and prevents second-guessing. If a choice doesn’t align with your values, it’s an easy “no.” This also keeps comparison at bay — because your values won’t look like anyone else’s.
Separate Facts from Feelings. Emotions are valid but not always reliable. Write down what’s true versus what you feel. Seeing both side by side helps you discern whether your hesitation stems from fear or faith.
Start Small to Build Confidence. Big decisions can be intimidating. Begin by practicing decisiveness in smaller, low-stakes areas. Every “yes” and “no” you make builds trust in your own judgment.
Seek Wise Counsel. We all sound wise in our own heads (I definitely do!). Saying things aloud to a trusted confidante brings surprising clarity. Some decisions need a soundboard — someone who helps you separate gold from dust.
Anchor to Purpose. When in doubt, ask: Does this move me closer to who I’m called to become? Purpose simplifies decisions. When you’re clear on your “why,” the “what” and “how” follow naturally.